Saving private dingbat.
Hi Lady!
Gotta love your blog. I don't really have a big problem, I think it's just confusion. I consider myself fairly normal in the dating and boyfriend department. However, I can't seem to "get" what's gone on in past relationships, or in my current one.
I always seem to go for the strong, protective type, which I know is common and pretty shallow, but after I land in a "thing" with one, it just seems to flatten out. I am looking now for a longer term thing, but I just can't seem to mesh with a guy. I think I'm getting annoyed with myself for not giving other types of guys a chance, but they just don't "turn me on". I do need that initial "hey, who's that, gimme a piece of that" to get me interested, but it ends up the same. These guys are killing me with their dumb guy stuff.
I also have guys that I don't really want to bed, but they're good guys and good friends. I kind of wish they were more strong and stuff, then I'd be more interested.
My current guy, who I do like alot, seems to fit in the former catagory. (big surprise.) A tall handsome guy, he was a soldier in Europe before coming to America. He's a bit slow, though, and I have a hard time communicating with him. He also has the hardest time doing the simplest things! He's really sweet and stuff, and I don't want to hurt him, but I can't take it anymore. He's just a DINGBAT.
I just realized that I lost a guy friend who was really my type maybe. Really smart, funny, stuff like that. He just was too good. It didn't turn me on. He left while saying, "I've spent all this time with you, but I know the type you go for, goodbye," and that was it. But I think he's right. I tend to get hot only for tall, strong protective guys. A lot of them turn out to be DINGBATS! I don't want to break my current's heart, but I gotta get some perspective here.
Any ideas?
Connie who's confused.
Well, Connie, welcome to the club. Every girl wants a strong protective guy. That's your baby talking. It's in the genes of most women. Every guy wants those curvy hips. It's science. Problem is, through liberation and education, we've grown as thinking and breathing intellectuals. We actually also want a tall, handsome protective guy with a brain, that's funny, smart and a good friend.
These perfect guys have it made. When you find one that isn't a philandering scumbag, let me know. They are tall, go to the gym, and get bored easily after they get you in bed. Yea, everybody wants one. The slower ones stick around for "mommy".
Some of my friends compromise by having a normal good guy around who's funny, smart and a great friend, that they can string along while bedding a "dingbat" strong and protective guy, until one of these "perfect" guys comes along to date and dump them. The "dingbat" cries in his soup and the good guy gets tired of their act and leaves, anyway. I guess it's as good a solution as any.
I think you have a science versus education dilemma. You can only get turned on physically by physical characteristics, and mentally by mental characteristics. The mental guys you like are not worthy of you physically, and the physical guys bore you to death. So, the only thing to do is start over. Again and again. Let the dingbat off the hook real slow, Connie. (oh, by the way, every European has to be a "soldier" unless they're well connected. It's the "automatic draft" over there. A big state sponsored slavery "turn on".) Try not to string along any more good guys. Then go for that perfect tall handsome smart guy. I'll see you at the clinic.
No, seriously, just take a time out for awhile and evaluate what you need to change. You're not a grownup yet, Connie. Don't take offense. You just need a balanced grownup perspective before another boyfriend.
I think there's a balance out there somewhere. Just try not to wear yourself out, there, miss perfection. Hope this helps.
Gotta love your blog. I don't really have a big problem, I think it's just confusion. I consider myself fairly normal in the dating and boyfriend department. However, I can't seem to "get" what's gone on in past relationships, or in my current one.
I always seem to go for the strong, protective type, which I know is common and pretty shallow, but after I land in a "thing" with one, it just seems to flatten out. I am looking now for a longer term thing, but I just can't seem to mesh with a guy. I think I'm getting annoyed with myself for not giving other types of guys a chance, but they just don't "turn me on". I do need that initial "hey, who's that, gimme a piece of that" to get me interested, but it ends up the same. These guys are killing me with their dumb guy stuff.
I also have guys that I don't really want to bed, but they're good guys and good friends. I kind of wish they were more strong and stuff, then I'd be more interested.
My current guy, who I do like alot, seems to fit in the former catagory. (big surprise.) A tall handsome guy, he was a soldier in Europe before coming to America. He's a bit slow, though, and I have a hard time communicating with him. He also has the hardest time doing the simplest things! He's really sweet and stuff, and I don't want to hurt him, but I can't take it anymore. He's just a DINGBAT.
I just realized that I lost a guy friend who was really my type maybe. Really smart, funny, stuff like that. He just was too good. It didn't turn me on. He left while saying, "I've spent all this time with you, but I know the type you go for, goodbye," and that was it. But I think he's right. I tend to get hot only for tall, strong protective guys. A lot of them turn out to be DINGBATS! I don't want to break my current's heart, but I gotta get some perspective here.
Any ideas?
Connie who's confused.
Well, Connie, welcome to the club. Every girl wants a strong protective guy. That's your baby talking. It's in the genes of most women. Every guy wants those curvy hips. It's science. Problem is, through liberation and education, we've grown as thinking and breathing intellectuals. We actually also want a tall, handsome protective guy with a brain, that's funny, smart and a good friend.
These perfect guys have it made. When you find one that isn't a philandering scumbag, let me know. They are tall, go to the gym, and get bored easily after they get you in bed. Yea, everybody wants one. The slower ones stick around for "mommy".
Some of my friends compromise by having a normal good guy around who's funny, smart and a great friend, that they can string along while bedding a "dingbat" strong and protective guy, until one of these "perfect" guys comes along to date and dump them. The "dingbat" cries in his soup and the good guy gets tired of their act and leaves, anyway. I guess it's as good a solution as any.
I think you have a science versus education dilemma. You can only get turned on physically by physical characteristics, and mentally by mental characteristics. The mental guys you like are not worthy of you physically, and the physical guys bore you to death. So, the only thing to do is start over. Again and again. Let the dingbat off the hook real slow, Connie. (oh, by the way, every European has to be a "soldier" unless they're well connected. It's the "automatic draft" over there. A big state sponsored slavery "turn on".) Try not to string along any more good guys. Then go for that perfect tall handsome smart guy. I'll see you at the clinic.
No, seriously, just take a time out for awhile and evaluate what you need to change. You're not a grownup yet, Connie. Don't take offense. You just need a balanced grownup perspective before another boyfriend.
I think there's a balance out there somewhere. Just try not to wear yourself out, there, miss perfection. Hope this helps.
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